t h e m a y f i l e s is foremost a family blog, chronicling everyday life. Life including natural, healthy eating (with recipes thrown in at random), home educating (with ideas popping up sporadically), an attempt to homestead on .2 acres (with very meager yields), raising 3 of 4 children with a rare genetic disorder, and lots of highly personal family triumphs and failures. You may also find an eclectic array of musings on politics, exercise, sewing, emergency preparedness, backyard chickens, and religion. This blog isn't a campaign to glorify anyone or anything. Just simply a record.

6.09.2010

Just in Time

Guess what bloomed just in time for little Berkeley Rose's arrival?

I love thinking that every summer my first roses will arrive just as her birthday does. Some people think the rose is a common, cliche flower. I love them. I treasure my 14 rose bushes. They seem to be the only green thing I can get to flourish.

I painstakingly prune them all summer, with scratches galore as proof. But all summer long my house smells of fresh roses. I can't wait to bring a vase full of them to the hospital with me.

6.08.2010

A Peek

I had a fabulous doctors appointment today, with a BP of 122/68! Imagine that. Getting a reading at the doctors like I do at home. Who would have thought it possible? My doctor was astounded. We had a good laugh. The delivery is still scheduled for Thursday morning. With the protein still in my urine at above 300, they feel the risks are greater to prolong the pregnancy.

But...more importantly, I asked if I could watch the c-section. He thought that would be perfectly fine. I just need to ask for a mirror! I am giddy at the prospect. This little token, would help me feel a part of the birth. It is so difficult to feel connected when I've never experienced labor, or any part of traditional childbirth.

Brent is completely grossed out by the entire concept.

....6 hours later....

I asked the nurses in Labor and Delivery tonight while I was having my NST about the mirror. They said there is no way they could work it out. That is disappointing. I am still trying to think up something.

(And my BP was ultra low my entire NST today. Seems like I am done panicking about having a premature baby. I wonder if they will allow me to forgo seizure medication? It is definitely worth asking.)


Constitutional Disclaimer

We use Drudge, as one of our main sources for news headlines. This one I came across this afternoon was quite shocking

Amazon is selling copies of the Constitution with a, I feel highly offensive, disclaimer.


Of all the works that may need a disclaimer like this, I just can't believe the Constitution is one of them. All Americans have a duty to understand and study the Constitution. They should be able to understand and discuss it with their children and neighbors. It is neither a racist nor sexist or anything else. I am certainly no Constitutional scholar but I have read it in the last 3 months, and try my best to understand the principles upon which it is based and the intentions of the founders.

6.07.2010

Dethronement? Not a Chance.

Of all the worries a new arrival brings, dethronement is not one I am concerned about with Emmett. He is his Father's man.

He also is an attentive caretaker. He snuggles, smooches, and cuddles his little "baby" frequently enough to melt any mother's heart. I am actually glad he is my only little boy. He is irresistible!

6.05.2010

Joys of June

Running through sprinklers...

Emmett thinking he is ultra brave by constantly climbing up to the second story of the tree house... There is always a constant "MOM! MOM! MOM!" until I look up and acknowledge his bravery.
Getting down is a whole different story. (Brent and Ellery have recently been concocting a third story. I'm not sure how I feel about that.)

Playing "Bums Up" with Dad on the Deck...


Somehow Daddy seemed to evade the wall, hmmmm...


A new haircut for Ellery...

6.02.2010

Date Set

One week from tomorrow, June 10th, baby Berkeley Rose joins our family! (That is of course, "If I make it that long." I try not to snicker when they pull out the drama on me now. I smile and nod and promise to call when I start seeing stars and having pounding headaches. They should start any minute they tell me.)

Think of me being sliced open at about 7am.

The end is finally in sight.

I haven't gone "SEVERE!" (That comment is laced in sarcasm. The doctors have been panicked I will "turn severe" at any moment since 29 weeks. But I am certain they are grateful I am holding on and padding all their pocket books.)

I am actually very grateful to be delivering a full term baby. (Her due date 7-3, but she will be considered full term.)

Enough with the grumbling. Our little family is just so ready to bring this baby girl into the world. I think baby and I have spent enough time in the hospital already.

From the numerous ultra sounds I think this little baby will look most like Ellery. But once again, she will be in a class all her own, because they told me again on Friday "Wow, look at that hair!"

Here are our three little raisins just after emergence....

Baby Ellery

Baby Callista

Baby Emmett

5.31.2010

Carnage at Full Circle


After the coop door was left open, 21 chickens and 3 turkeys lost their lives. Only 3 chickens and 1 turkey remain. Thanksgiving will be slim pickings at the ranch.

Don't tell Grandpa, but they are definitely still rookie ranchers. (They were also sold a bum calf this year which lived only a couple weeks and died of pneumonia.) Poor little poultry. Lesson learned: Close the coop door.

5.29.2010

Snapshots of the Past 3 weeks

Planting the Garden...

Ellery insisted on buying some flowers with her own money to include in the bed.


Emmett proved quite proficient at digging holes.

Callista got really dirty, while mom lounged and pointed from the deck (lazy bum). Why can't we get that woman to work?

Preschool Graduation....

Ellery acted as photographer extraordinaire.

Dance Festival....

Of course the chicken dance, what elementary school dance

Ellery Spotlight....

Notice in the back "the lions den." This is where I spend about 12 hours a day. Glorious.



Spanish Princess Party...


Someday we will get the "real" smile :)
Swimming Lessons...




5.25.2010

Overwhelmed and Lifted


I am overcome by the kindness and goodness which surround me. I am so uplifted and feel equipped emotionally for the next two weeks. Thank you, thank you to those who are so selflessly giving and listening. Here is a sampling of the hands of service touching my family and cheering my heart....

...a fantastic, homemade, healthy chocolate birthday cake made by Desiree (who also stopped by on Friday and let me cry to her) for my little Ellery's birthday on Sunday (it is gone already!)

A delectable basket of fruit which arrived today from Brent's parents (it is almost gone) just to lift my spirits...
A cheerful bouquet of flowers brought by my neighbor Julie simply to brighten my day (and they were so perfect to have for Ellery's birthday as well)...
...raisin bread "letters" for each of my children's name, and raw, homemade, sugarfree cookies, endless loaves of amazing bread from Adele, who also offered to take the girls to their swimming lessons next week (it is like my mom lives 2 doors down!!! She is incredible!)

...my bathroom cleaned, and cleaned how I would have done it, by Jill

....an unexpected dinner, straight from my blog, from Amy, and weekly play dates for Callista (complete with projects and crafts and learning experiences)

...a husband who let me cry for an hour in his arms and then told me to buck up and think about our quadriplegic neighbor, who whacked a large mouse yesterday under our couch (I was mortified, Ellery was certain it must be a rat because it was so big) and spent until 1 in the afternoon cleaning the house, takes the kids to carnivals, brought 5 little girls to the pool for a birthday party, and shook 4 inches of snow off all our fruit trees yesterday to try and save them

....a doctor who laughed at me when I asked if I could have my bedrest modified, and patiently responded to my queries yet again assuring me I am sick, but whom also scheduled my delivery for June 10th, just over 2 weeks away

...Callista who says the most precious things:
Me: My stomach is upset right now, I don't think I want anything.
Callista runs to me on the couch, lovingly cradles my tummy in her hands, lays her head on my belly, and says, "Oh mommy, why is the baby sad? Is she crying?"

...Emmett who doesn't tire of playing cars on the couch, reading nursery rhymes, rolling balls, and has taken to kissing my baby belly

...Ellery taking on so much responsibility, and being so brave with on mom on bedrest for her birthday

...A phone call from Jess which made me belly laugh for several minutes

....A last minute dinner from Marie and playdate for all three children

...A visit from Christy

....A visit from Brittney

....A visit from Terri

...A weekly phone call from Jessie at the grocery store, and walking Ellery to school

....movies, phone calls, play dates, and love from Kathryn

I am sure I left off more of the little miracles in the last 3 days, yes this is only in 3 days. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!


5.23.2010

Happy 7th Birthday Ellery


Ellery. All about you.

You...

Weigh 47 pounds

Dislike piano practicing with a passion

Love to compose poetry

Always try to finagle someone into coming into the bathroom or basement or upstairs with you, it is far better than being alone

Memorize with brilliancy

Can't get enough of the Little House on the Prairie books

Have a way with animals

Are content with spending all your time with mom and dad

Love being read to but not independently

Adore chocolate

Finally feel like you are old enough to stay in your own bed all night

Play make believe and make elaborate houses from blocks and blankets for your barbies

Have a quiet confidence unusual for your age

Cough loud and often enough to turn heads and garner dirty, astonished looks from nurses, teachers, shoppers, park mothers etc

Love public speaking

Often comment about your sisters golden hair, wishing yours was blond too

Would take a snuggle date with Dad over a friends birthday party

Are so excited for baby Berkeley

Make our home a better place, full of your highly expressive love letters

We love you Ellery.



5.21.2010

An Emotionally Weak Day

Tomorrow I reach 34 weeks. A landmark.

I have to admit feeling very frustrated by my appointments this week. My proteins doubled, but the umbilical cord is looking better. My blood pressure is the same, teetering on severe. It took almost 4 hours today at the hospital. It can be so aggravating...I feel like the next three weeks will just be more and more of the same...one test looks worse, one looks better, blood pressure the same.

Today I don't feel like I can handle this laying around, dependency on others, burden to my family for 3 more weeks.

Timely enough, my dear friend Brittney sent me some quotes on adversity today. These are from Richard G. Scott.


"Find the compensatory blessings in your life when, in the wisdom of the Lord, He deprives you of something you very much want. To the sightless or hearing impaired, He sharpens the other senses. To the ill, He gives patience, understanding, and increased appreciation for others’ kindness. With the loss of a dear one, He deepens the bonds of love, enriches memories, and kindles hope in a future reunion. You will discover compensatory blessings when you willingly accept the will of the Lord and exercise faith in Him."

"I testify that when the Lord closes one important door in your life, He shows His continuing love and compassion by opening many other compensating doors through your exercise of faith. He will place in your path packets of spiritual sunlight to brighten your way. They often come after the trial has been the greatest, as evidence of the compassion and love of an all-knowing Father. They point the way to greater happiness, more understanding, and strengthen your determination to accept and be obedient to His will."


I need to do some thinking on this. Clearly the compassion and kindness is oozing around me everywhere. It is hard to handle, how many thoughtful things are being done to us. I see a different side of so many of my friends and neighbors. It is so uplifting and inspiring to watch these good people serve.

But today I just felt frustrated by my inertia and prideful. I sat in the hospital and haughtily judged everyone around me. It seemed everything about them screamed they didn't take care of themselves. Didn't care. Why was I in the same place they were? I sat stewing at all my doctors, still feeling this is all a big sham. I am embarrassed, I don't make a habit of sitting around critiquing others and thinking I know more than them. But it was what I sat there doing. Very un-Christlike.

Clearly this trial won't end anytime soon if I keep up this attitude. As I said it is an emotionally weak day for me. I haven't been with my husband or children, and they strengthen me so much. I'm sure when Brent returns he can kick me off my sorry violin, make me laugh and offer some perspective.

I go to ponder on the compensatory blessings the Lord has to offer me... :)

One fun note:

At my ultrasound today, they mentioned for the second time (two weeks ago also) how much hair little Berkeley has. This is huge!! My babies are always bald. (See recent photos of Emmett for clear evidence of this, and he is almost 2 1/2.) Apparently she has long flowing hair on the back of her head. It is probably a nice thick mullet...but there is always a chance of some hair on the top too. A mother can always hope ;)

A final post note:

And then, as I read this again, I think how ridiculous I am to even claim this to be adversity. This is so temporary. An immediate end is in sight. Not many others can say that of their trials.

5.20.2010

All Dolled Up

Callista. All dolled up for her cousin's princess party.
Ellery's comment: Wowww Callista. Everyone is really going to like you when you are big.
I think she was overcome by the mascara.

Callista does have killer eyelashes and the deepest, richest eyes I've ever seen. For all their darkness they sparkle like the jewel that she is.